How do you gain a new perspective on life? For sales coach Ian Koniak it took a brush with death, making peace with his family, and getting sober. He discovered "a calling of helping" and today he encourages a life of integrity, where "your actions and your behaviors match your thoughts." In pursuing sales or other goals he urges patience and faith, which he equates with "the ability to see success, even if you don't experience it" immediately. He also advises people to listen for "shoulds" in their self-talk because they indicate "you're not living a life that you truly want to live." ... John and Ian warn that our 24/7 world leaves too many of us "short-term focused," allowing immediate gratification to get in the way of what's important.